Sunday, September 21, 2014

Why teaching teenagers is so hard

This is a list in progress...

1.      They have this incredible ability to get into your heart. And then break it.


2.      As much as you tell yourself you aren’t, you are desperate to be liked by all 150 of your students, all the time. And it’s impossible. Some of them will not like you.

3.      Someone will always disappoint you, sometimes the one you had so much faith and hope in.

4.      Sometimes they believe so much in you and think you can solve all their problems. And… the systems you work within will thwart all your efforts to try to make their world a better place. Again and again. Until you are totally exhausted with trying. And you can’t tell them why you’ve failed them.

5.      You can’t explain your emotions to them, even, and especially if they are the cause; you have to be bigger than that. You’re the adult, and that sucks sometimes.

6.      Sometimes, just when you think you’ve broken through, you realise it was a lie.

7.      No matter how much you care, it won’t be enough. To fix them, to fix it, to make it better.

8.      You just won’t ever have enough strength or tissue for all the pain that they will bring into your classroom.

9.      They will talk about you and you will find out and it will make you sad.

10.  There are all these codes. They don’t give you the key.

11.  They wear multiple layers. Trying to get to the bottom can be infuriating and draining.

12.  They will lie to you. And some of them can do it so well.

13.  They think they know everything, so you are always wrong. Very few have developed enough to see the world objectively.

14.  Almost every one of them enters having been hurt by an adult. You are an adult. Enough said.

15.  The time required to build real relationship and trust is ridiculous. Most of them leave high school before you’re done.

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